It's finally over ..."THE LAST BATTLE" by C.S. Lewis

"What else could we do? We don't want any other King. We're your people. If it were only the Ape and the Calormenes who were against you, we would have fought till we were cut into pieces before we'd have let them tie you up. We would, we would indeed. But we can't go against Aslan."

"Do you think it really is Aslan?" asked the King.

Okay... it is mid August and I finished this book at the end of July.  Better late than never.  I think my blog posts of the Chronicles of Narnia would be incomplete without the last book, even if I didn't find it quite the rocket read that some of the others were.  

Tirian had never dreamed that one of the results of an Ape's setting up a false Aslan would be to stop people from believing in the real one.

So this book introduced a belief in an Aslan that wasn't a real Aslan.  Interesting.  And then when the fake Aslan was uncovered, the belief was still supported.  Wow... That part of the story is helpful to my journey now.  I may have disconnected from the 2000 year old story, but to be the one to broadcast it to those who believe it... not such a beneficial thing to do.  Yes, the story has a real Aslan... and in the minds, hearts and beliefs of so many... there is a real Jesus living (and breathing?) today.  Maybe all I can do is wait like everyone else.  

The sweet air grew suddenly sweeter. A brightness flashed behind them. All turned. Tirian turned last because he was afraid. There stood his heart's desire, huge and real, the golden Lion, Aslan himself, and already the others were kneeling in a circle round his forepaws and burying their hands and faces in his mane as he stooped his great head to touch them with his tongue. Then he fixed his eyes upon Tirian, and Tirian came near, trembling, and flung himself at the Lion's feet, and the Lion kissed him and said, "Well done, last of the Kings of Narnia who stood firm at the darkest hour." CSL

This is the warm part of the story... Aslan finally shows up.  He is delinquent for most of the story and it makes one wonder if he is an adequate picture of Jesus.  We are 2000 years past the promise (according to the gospel of Matthew)... and people are still waiting for Jesus to show up.  

"Aslan," said Lucy through her tears, "could you—will you—do something for these poor Dwarfs?"

"Dearest," said Aslan, "I will show you both what I can, and what I cannot... CSL

This is why Thomas Jay Oord's book really moved me into a different trajectory.  There were some things that Aslan couldn't do.  Thank you C.S. Lewis... for making Aslan... lion. 

"So," said Peter, "Night falls on Narnia. What, Lucy! You're not crying? With Aslan ahead, and all of us here?"

"Don't try to stop me, Peter," said Lucy, "I am sure Aslan would not. I am sure it is not wrong to mourn for Narnia. Think of all that lies dead and frozen behind that door."

"Yes and I did hope," said Jill, "that it might go on for ever. I knew our world couldn't. I did think Narnia might."

"I saw it begin," said the Lord Digory. "I did not think I would live to see it die."

"Sirs," said Tirian. "The ladies do well to weep. See I do so myself. I have seen my mother's death. What world but Narnia have I ever known? It were no virtue, but great discourtesy, if we did not mourn." CSL

C.S. Lewis gives, not only his characters, but his readers a chance to mourn the ending of Narnia.  I guess I was surprised.  Lewis doesn't leave room for continued imagination and that is what most readers of fiction like.  Even through the author doesn't write the continued storyline, readers still want to imagine the characters going beyond.  

"This is absolutely crazy," said Eustace to Edmund.

"I know. And yet——" said Edmund.

"Isn't it wonderful?" said Lucy. "Have you noticed one can't feel afraid, even if one wants to? Try it."  CSL

I highlighted this because the idea of not feeling afraid even when I wanted to... well... I don't know if I ever want to feel afraid.  It seems just a response, not really a desire.  But having the courage when fear is more expected, now that is what this might be trying to convey.  

This wasn't my favourite book of the series.  I don't know what is my favourite.  But I can tell you the characters that I most admired - Aslan (when he did show up) Eustace and Bree. A elusive, cuddly when he wanted to be, lion; a pesky cousin and a beautiful talking horse that had more character than the human that rode him.  

Will I recommend the books?  Definitely not to children.  I think I said before, the whole royalty motif isn't my favourite.  But I am glad I read them, because now I can say I did.  

And for us this is the end of all the stories, and we can most truly say that they all lived happily ever after. But for them it was only the beginning of the real story. CSL

Revisiting the conversation with Bart and Tony in "WHY I LEFT, WHY I STAYED"

 

"To me, however, Jesus is almost entirely inaccessible. I’ve never seen his photograph, listened to a recording of his voice, or read a single sentence that can be surely ascribed to him, let alone met him in person or known someone else who did. Like the rest of the world, all I have to go on are four brief, highly redacted, obviously biased accounts of his life and times, which even in their original form were written some decades after his death, and aren’t entirely consistent with one another. I know plenty of folks who claim those accounts clearly reveal his personality, but as far as I’m concerned, the biblical record of Jesus is far too sketchy for anyone to claim they really know Jesus’s character.

Among the many important things I don’t know about Jesus: whether he was a good carpenter; how he felt about Joseph not being his real father; his sexual orientation; his perspectives on slavery, abortion, and just war; his favorite kind of anything; his sense of humor; his best friend; why he raised Lazarus from the dead but nobody else; what he thought about between the crucifixion and the resurrection; and why he didn’t make sure at least one of his disciples took better notes. I mean, seriously, I know way more about Abraham Lincoln—or Michael Jackson for that matter—than I do about Jesus." Bart

Reading books again is a great way to catch what I missed the first read through, and also to find new wisdom that helps me on an ever growing journey.  

The first time I read this book, I had Jesus, my iPhone and a way to track great quotes and was probably reading in my house on the highway in my small town.  This time, I was out camping in the bush by a beautiful lake, with my hard copy of the book.  I had no electronics, no highlighter, and no Jesus. -- nothing but nature, me, my hubby and the book. It was an entirely different experience.  I read through the book in three days.  

(The link to my first blog post of "Why I Left, Why I Stayed" ) 

It was winter of 2020 when I first picked up the book.  I had been out of Christianity as a system for over a decade already, but Jesus as a real living entity was still somewhat there.  This year, on Good Friday of 2022, I had a funeral for Jesus... and I didn't resurrect him.  ( This is the poem I wrote on Good Friday to honour the occasion... entitled "Love Never Breathed" ) 

"Not surprisingly, I very much like my father’s Jesus, not only for his great compassion but also for his longtime commitment to social justice, environmental responsibility, and women’s rights, not to mention his more recent embrace of marriage equality. I’m just kidding about that last part, of course, because everyone knows it isn’t Jesus who finally changed his mind about our LGBTQ friends, but rather my father who changed his mind about Jesus.

I did the same thing as a Christian. Over and over again, I adjusted my vision of Jesus to reflect my latest values and understanding of the world. The good news was that the Lord I ended up with was quite literally the most perfectly wonderful person I could imagine. The bad news was that, once I realized my Jesus was merely a projection of my own ideals, he lost all authority in my life." Bart

I think what stuck out for me this time was the whole focus on changing theology.  Even Tony admits that he changed his theology.  So what exactly is the expectation for anyone introduced to Christianity.  There doesn't seem to be consistency.  That is a huge problem for me.  But also it is the open door for me to say that the way out of the chaos of divisiveness is to find a way to be okay with everyone being on their own journey.  No conversion necessary, no assimilation required and no shame to manage.  Just free people up to find their own way to understand their existence.  

"If I’m right, then it makes sense that so many norms, mores, and values are similar across cultures, because there are some laws of nature that apply equally around the world. Antisocial behaviors like lying, murder, and incest don’t work for anyone under any circumstances over the long run, so they are universally proscribed.

Of course, if group flourishing is truly the ultimate standard of goodness, then it also makes sense that rules about food, water, sexuality, child-rearing, and other aspects of community life would vary widely from group to group, depending on the conditions under which they develop. Even so, all such rules are ultimately rooted in mutual care and responsibility in the context of cooperative groups. Simply stated, human morality is and always has been fundamentally about human relationships." Bart

Morality is built into each human being.  I didn't understand that until I got to know people who didn't ascribe to divine inspiration or sacred laws.  It is really a self-preservation necessity.  We need people to survive, and being nice and kind and loving is the smartest way to facilitate that.  But religions have put rules around basic humanity.  That makes no sense to me now.  I'm not loving someone if I do it because I have been commanded to do it, or even asked to do it.  Love needs to flow from within me to be authentic.  

All that being said... how do I explain the immoral.  Immorality happens when people get messed up.   It is a vicious cycle.  Fear messes up people.  Fear gets transferred like urine in a swimming pool or oil in the ocean. One little spill can wreck the water and the experience for others.   What comes out of Fear... Anger, Ignorance, Hatred, Bitterness and eventually... Immorality.

"I understand the gut-level attraction of the idea that almighty God defines good and evil, but it’s awfully hard for me to swallow. I mean, are things like rape and murder evil simply because God forbids them, or are they objectively wrong? Regardless, isn’t morality really about thinking through the potential impact of my actions, weighing the various options against a complex matrix of competing values, and humbly making the best decision possible? For me to blindly follow a divine commandment seems like a way to shirk the hard work of deliberation and evade responsibility for the intentions and consequences of my actions. Simple obedience might keep people of faith from doing bad things, but I’m not sure how it helps them become morally good themselves." Bart

Maybe you're noticing that this time the quotes are from Bart.  That is on purpose.  It was Bart's thoughts I was tapping into the most on this read through.  I was out in nature and found myself being freed up to just be and discover me in the woods and the water.  I had let Jesus go, and I needed to find a bit of support for that.  Maybe it's my need for ammunition in my conversations with my people, or maybe it is just confirmation.  I have admitted that I am insecure.  I was amazed that even with Bart's well through through responses and story, that his dad didn't see what really made sense.  There always seemed to be a defensive comeback.  It makes me wonder if it is even possible for committed Christians to have empathy for Post-Christians.  I didn't when I called myself a Christian, but I am looking for those who might be different. 

"I think we need to stop seeing death as the negation of life, and see it instead as the necessary catalyst for every good thing we enjoy." Bart

Reading in nature gave me a great appreciation for the world I live in.  When I came across passages like this, I found myself looking out at the lake or in the trees or at the jaybirds that frequented our campsite.  "Life is precious" Bart says in the documentary he did with his dad "Leaving my Father's Faith" 

"Indeed, it may well be that the greatest mistake in this world is to live as if you have endless time when in fact you don’t." Bart

Spending three days in nature has given me more confidence in my understanding and my world view.  I am feeling less burdened by the need to please my people.  I feel like I matter and my journey matters.  I am grateful that Bart's words of encouragement came to me in that beautiful place of peace and connectivity with the planet.  Thank you again, Bart for an amazing book, the amazing conversations you had with your dad, and the voice you continue to have.  

"Look, everybody knows there are bunches of angry atheists running around out there, openly mocking the church and loudly proclaiming that organized religion poisons everything, but I will never be one of them. First of all, I have far too much love and gratitude for the many believers who have positively shaped my life to ever want to communicate disrespect for their communities and traditions. Second, and more importantly, I feel no disrespect." Bart 

Narnia is born in "THE MAGICIAN'S NEPHEW" by C.S.Lewis

The Lion was pacing to and fro about that empty land and singing his new song. It was softer and more lilting than the song by which he had called up the stars and the sun; a gentle, rippling music. And as he walked and sang the valley grew green with grass. It spread out from the Lion like a pool. It ran up the sides of the little hills like a wave. In a few minutes it was creeping up the lower slopes of the distant mountains, making that young world every moment softer. The light wind could now be heard ruffling the grass. Soon there were other things besides grass. The higher slopes grew dark with heather. Patches of rougher and more bristling green appeared in the valley. CSL

"The Magician's Nephew"  or as otherwise understood... The beginning of Narnia.  It's Narnia's creation story.  It took a lot longer to get to Narnia in this book, but once we got the kids there... they witnessed the wonder of the creation of Narnia. 

All this time the Lion's song, and his stately prowl, to and fro, backwards and forwards, was going on. What was rather alarming was that at each turn he came a little nearer. Polly was finding the song more and more interesting because she thought she was beginning to see the connection between the music and the things that were happening. CSL

It didn't take long for me to be captivated by the beauty of Narnia's creation story.  It's the best beginning of a world  I've read... ever!   Maybe it is the evolution of literature that makes the magic come alive more.  But bringing life into existence with music... it simply doesn't get better than that.  And this agnostic can say that without feeling like she is being at all condescending to other creation stories. 

When a line of dark firs sprang up on a ridge about a hundred yards away she felt that they were connected with a series of deep, prolonged notes which the Lion had sung a second before. And when he burst into a rapid series of lighter notes she was not surprised to see primroses suddenly appearing in every direction. Thus, with an unspeakable thrill, she felt quite certain that all the things were coming (as she said) "out of the Lion's head." When you listened to his song you heard the things he was making up: when you looked round you, you saw them. This was so exciting that she had no time to be afraid. CSL

I am still drawn to get to the end of the collection.  I haven't been really disappointed by the Chronicles of Narnia yet.  Like I said, this one took a little while for the children to get to Narnia, so when they got there, and got their marching orders from Aslan... it required a flying horse for them to get what they needed.  The story needed a speedy conclusion.  So now I'm dreaming of Fledge... 

And then, just as the beasts had burst out of the earth, there burst out from the shoulders of Fledge wings that spread and grew, larger than eagles', larger than swans', larger than angels' wings in church windows. The feathers shone chestnut colour and copper colour. He gave a great sweep with them and leaped into the air. CSL

This makes me want to dream, not about horse back riding, but horse back flying.  I wish I could stay in the beauty of the created Narnia and quickly evolving creatures and landscape... but as has been in every book so far, there is always some darkness.  

"But do not be cast down," said Aslan, still speaking to the Beasts. "Evil will come of that evil, but it is still a long way off, and I will see to it that the worst falls upon myself. In the meantime, let us take such order that for many hundred years yet this shall be a merry land in a merry world. And as Adam's race has done the harm, Adam's race shall help to heal it. CSL

It was in this book that I got the revelation that Aslan is not Jesus... Aslan is Creator.  So I'm not stuck trying to fit Christian theology into this narrative.  This narrative can float and navigate well without the rudder of Christianity.  Maybe that is what is so captivating as I get to the end of the series.  Aslan holds space for me in a separate world than that of Christianity's narrative.  I still get to separate the whole masculine portrayal, but for the most part, it doesn't really do damage to the story.  Aslan's masculinity isn't driving his identity.  At least, not as I see the story and I am thankful for that.  

What I give you now will bring joy. It will not, in your world, give endless life, but it will heal.  CSL

I have one more book to read... "The Last Battle".  This series started with a war and looks like it gets to end with a war.  I guess that is just the portrait of life.  Maybe because these books were written in the fifties and the whole of Europe was recovering from WW2.  So I get to mix fantasy with reality.  I guess I can't ask for much more.  The books are written, not as an escape from life, but picture of life.  Maybe that's okay.  

Both the children were looking up into the Lion's face as he spoke these words. And all at once (they never knew exactly how it happened) the face seemed to be a sea of tossing gold in which they were floating, and such a sweetness and power rolled about them and over them and entered into them that they felt they had never really been happy or wise or good, or even alive and awake, before. And the memory of that moment stayed with them always, so that as long as they both lived, if ever they were sad or afraid or angry, the thought of all that golden goodness, and the feeling that it was still there, quite close, just round some corner or just behind some door, would come back and make them sure, deep down inside, that all was well.  CSL

Grieving through "RIVER OF TIME" by Naomi Judd

(Before you read any further... Please watch this video link. )

  Ashley and Wynonna at Naomi's Memorial Service

"My point of view was that there could always be healing, even if there isn’t always a cure. " NJ

How do I read this book now?  That was my first question.  Naomi Judd had just died at the end of April and I picked up her book at the beginning of May.  "River of Time" is subtitled "My Descent into Depression and How I Emerged with Hope".  This book was published in 2016 and in spring of 2022, she ended her life.  She only emerged with hope for six more years?    

"I felt such a deep shame about not being able to shake off this increasingly dark and immobilizing depression. The only thing sparing me from suicide was the effect it would have on those I loved, and all of the people who thought of me as a hope seller, but the odds were beginning to weigh against them." NJ

This book is dark, and yet this book is full of light.  I guess it all depends on how you quantify dark and light.  I see them in the same space, just different times of the day.  

I value stories like Naomi's.  I value real, raw and ridiculously vulnerable journeys.  What courage it takes for someone with a high profile to put herself  out there.  Maybe the hope was found more in the presence at the bottom than in the climbing out. It takes hope to climb out.  

Naomi includes a quote from her daughter Ashley who also struggled with depression... I like what Ashley said.  

“I’m very happy to talk about it because, for me, when I talk about it, it helps me to reduce my own shame. I’ve been so blessed with finding a solution that how dare I not share that solution with others that face challenges? There’s still a lot of stigma and taboo around something that’s perceived as a mental illness.” AJ

This reminds me of something Brene Brown said about shame... I can't find the quote... but it was something about the need to tell your story is what gets rid of the shame attached to it.   Secrets are fertilizer for shame... telling your story is the herbicide for shame.  ( a little agricultural analogy from me...not Brene)   

"Our pets can sense the energy depletion when you’re struggling with physical or emotional issues and they try with their natural empathy to help us heal ourselves." NJ

I totally agree, because we have two cats that know when my hubby and I are not at our optimum level of interaction.  Maybe Naomi's dogs saved her life on countless occasions.

I almost always travel with my small dog, Bijou. My psychiatrist gave me a document stating that Bijou is necessary for my emotional wellbeing. She wears a little vest to identify her as a service dog. The emotional support and the comfort Bijou brings me is incalculable. My dogs are my best friends and they have carried me through my darkest days. NJ

This was a hard read.  I felt like I was grieving her loss as I read through her words.  I wanted the story to have a happy ending, but I knew the story would end in tears.  So the goal of this read was not to get too depressed myself.  

Radical acceptance is to know that painful things are still going to happen, but how we respond makes a difference. We don’t have to condone our current reality, but we have to accept it for what it is instead of staying stuck, wishing it were different. Pain will happen, but suffering is optional. NJ

Some good wisdom comes out of Naomi as she recollects her journey through the darkness.  Maybe the wisdom is after she gets out of the hole.  I don't feel very wise when I am in the pits, but when I get up a little more and can find a better view, I find wisdom waiting for me.  

Life is short, but it’s wide.

There is no fairy-tale ending to this book, but you and I know there isn’t one in real life, either. NJ

This is the second author I have grieved while I read.  Rachel Held Evans was the first.  I want to emphasize that Naomi's death by no means invalidates her story.  It is the end of her journey and what tragically happens to people who have mental illness.  There is no judgement to be had.  That is why I wanted you to see her daughters give her the most heart warming tribute at her memorial.  That is why I want to end this post like I began it... with a song.  Naomi is the writer of both songs... my favourite Judd song is what Wynonna had the whole Ryman singing at her Mama's send off. 

One final word:  Thank you Naomi for great music, a great heart and great courage.  You gave me hope.  Love Can Build a Bridge!!!! 

"If I can bring any comfort or hope to you, too, that would give my writing this book the greatest meaning. I may still struggle, but I no longer suffer." NJ

Wynonna sings "Love Can Build a Bridge" 

More than just a Fresh Prince: "WILL" by Will Smith

 "Will" Book Trailer 

"In acting, understanding a character’s fears is a critical part of understanding his or her psyche. The fears create desires and the desires precipitate actions. These repetitive actions and predictable responses are the building blocks of great cinematic characters.

It’s pretty much the same in real life. Something bad happens to us, and we decide we’re never going to let that happen again. But in order to prevent it, we have to be a certain way. We choose the behaviors that we believe will deliver safety, stability, and love. And we repeat them, over and over again. In the movies, we call it a character; in real life, we call it personality."  WS

It's June 16, 2022 and I just finished "Will"... the book that Oprah claimed as the best memoir ever.  That was high praise and it was those words that invited me into reading the autobiography of "The Fresh Prince".  

Why did I read this book?  Why does this story matter?  It's Will Smith... he's a rich, famous American musical TV and Movie star.  What can I get out of his story?  What do I  have in common with Will?    Well... after reading his story... I found out I do have something in common with Will 

1. We were both born in 1968

2. We both walked our fathers through sickness, vulnerability and then to death. 

3. Skydiving and Bungee Jumping... (truth be told, I was younger when I did my jumping than Will was... but his jumps were a little more outrageous and dramatic. (check out the links to see Will's jumps) 

4. We both realize that as crazy and painful that it is.... our story matters.  (Will's Youtube channel has some great footage of the journey he took during the release of the book) 

5.   The last chapter or our book of life is entitled Love... because it is the most important thing.  

"It is difficult to overestimate the power of a first experience in Africa. Two steps off the airplane, and I’m already crying. I’m not sure if it was my cells or my soul that recognized their origin, but it was visceral and overwhelming. We found a quiet place just outside the airport in Maputo, Mozambique; we all huddled, held hands, knelt down, and kissed the ground. One of the airport workers yelled out from the other side of the fence, “Welcome home, brothers!” " WS

Even through I found a few things I have in common with Will, I am always looking to walk into a story because of what I don't have in common with the author.  I am wanting to expand my understanding and learn about a world I know nothing about.  

"Memory is not a flawless recording of what actually happened. It’s not a video of your experience. It’s not even a photograph. It is your psychological, artistic rendering. It is more like an abstract impressionist painting of what happened than it is a pure, unfiltered depiction. And it’s not fixed..." WS

I always enjoy the wisdom I can reap from my reads.  Will Smith's story is no exception.  I am not restricted to finding wisdom from people older than me.  Will is six months younger, which almost makes the wisdom special because we are the same age.  

"Life is learning. Period. Overcoming ignorance is the whole point of the journey. You’re not supposed to know at the beginning. The whole point of venturing into uncertainty is to bring light to the darkness of our ignorance. I heard a great saying once: Life is like school, with one key difference—in school you get the lesson, and then you take the test. But in life, you get the test, and it’s your job to take the lesson.

We’re all waiting until we have deep knowledge, wisdom, and a sense of certainty before we venture forth. But we’ve got it backward—venturing forth is how we gain the knowledge.

Over the next few years, while our ignorance would rain down a deluge of pain and suffering, when I look back, I see clearly it could have been no other way. The universe only teaches through experience." WS

I usually like to send the author a link to the blog post, but there are some exceptions.  Will Smith won't be getting an email from me for obvious reasons of inaccessiblity... but I still want to say thank you.  So maybe something in the Cosmos can pass along my appreciation for this contribution to my journey.  Because that is what it was.... a contribution.  

"There is something strangely clarifying and cleansing about looking into the eyes of someone who has accepted their pending death. The awareness of death bestows profundity and clears all the bullshit out of the way. The finality of it all makes every moment feel infinitely significant. ...  Every laugh, every story takes on weight and meaning in that simple fact. Death has a way of transforming the mundane into the magical."  WS

There were so many great quotes I could share here, but I would have to copy and paste almost half of the book to get them all in here... so my advise... read the book!  It is an adventure and I am thankful for what "Will" taught me as I read this book.  I am also thankful that Will opened his personal world and share the stories that inspired him from the people that inspired him, like his grandmother, Gigi. 

"To Gigi, “God” and “love” were synonymous; they were inseparable, and indistinguishable. She worshipped God by loving others. Love was the only commandment that mattered—to her, if you were being loving, you wouldn’t need all the others." WS

I do want to mention one thing that bothered me during this read.  I was sharing with someone that I was reading this book, and I got an earful about "Will Smith"...  I guess there has been media uproar and that seemed to warrant a "Why would you read a book by Will Smith?"   Well, I am back to my heart message.... "Every story matters."  I didn't need to update myself on the media frenzy in order to enjoy the story.  I don't need to defend the authors actions or behaviour to enjoy the story.  In this moment... the story is what matters.  To invest my time in anything else... would take away from that story.  This is the heart of empathy and compassion.  I will only get compassion by getting close to a person's story... not the mess of the media.  

"I’ve realized that for some reason, God placed the most beautiful things in life on the other side of our worst terrors. If we are not willing to stand in the face of the things that most deeply unnerve us, and then step across the invisible line into the land of dread, then we won’t get to experience the best that life has to offer."  WS

I could have ended my post there... but I realize that this is a post about Will Smith and if I didn't include at least one of the moments that made me laugh... I would be missing a big part of his character.  

"I lined all of my cars and motorcycles up in front of the house and invited Daddio over so he could see how well I was doing. Daddio pulled up in his two-tone blue Chevy work van. He always believed that vehicles should have a utility. I stood proudly out front as he got out of the van. We hugged.

“I just got the ’Vette last week,” I said.

“These are all yours?” he asked, looking disdainfully at my fresh new fleet.

“Yup,” I said proudly. My arms were respectfully by my side, but in my mind my B-boy stance was on swole.

“Boy, why you need three cars?” he said. “You only got one ass.” " WS (1&2)