Monday, January 22, 2024
Changing my life with "THE CARNIVORE DIET" by Dr. Shawn Baker MD
Wednesday, October 25, 2023
Finding Courage for Atheists in "WE OF LITTLE FAITH" by Kate Cohen
"When it hit me that I was responsible for teaching my children everything, I knew in that moment that I must do something about this. And for me, “this” was the mindless transmission of information that I actually believed to be false, and “something” was telling the truth—to myself, to my kids, and, finally, to others." KC
Before I start into my breakdown of why I found this book so amazing, I want to admit to myself and whoever reads this blogpost that I currently identify as an Agnostic Atheist. I go into further detail about that label in a recent post in my blog "My Agnostic Closet" entitled "101223 "Agnostic Atheist" A label that works for me"
I wrote that post during my read of this book. Because of a challenge that Kate put forward to her readers in her chapter "Why I don't call myself an Agnostic." I explain in that post why I still use the label Agnostic, and even after my read of Kate's book, the label will stay, but maybe I can have more courage with the Atheist part of the identifier.
"Most of us have grown up with this reflexive deference to religion, and many of us continue to act on it even if we don’t ourselves believe in God. I still sometimes have to remind myself that it’s okay not to tiptoe around religion as if it were a soufflĂ© that could collapse and then the dinner party will be ruined." KC
I wish I could go forward in my life and my relationships without feeling like I am tiptoeing around other people's faith expressions and religious practices. I am not silent and I don't feel like I am pretending, but I do avoid the whole story with some friends and family. (I may be out on my blogs... but most of my people don't come down this on-line rabbit trail with me.)
"I am not willing to say “that’s just my opinion” about whether something is fact or fiction, right or wrong. All beliefs—mine, theirs, Mike Pence’s—are not equal. Many are wrong. Some are harmlessly wrong (I’ll go to heaven after I die), and some are harmfully wrong (gay people will go to hell after they die)." KC
I totally understand this, but I still struggle around the dividing line between what is harmlessly wrong and harmfully wrong. Some things are obvious, but not all things are in my world. I know how to play the role of martyr in my circles; and I don't know how long that will work for me. Just being painfully honest.
And how harmless is the belief "I'll go to heaven after I die" when you get to spend eternity without your child that doesn't believe. My sister Jennifer died this summer, and I can surmise that my mother heard a lot of comments from others, something like this.
"Won't it be wonderful to see Jennifer in Heaven one day?'
What goes through my mother's mind when she hears that now?
"Yes, but what about Ruby?"
There is nothing harmless about that.
"Would I want to believe she still existed somewhere if she didn’t anymore? I guess, if I really thought I would see her again, I would. But mostly I would want her back. Want her back. Want her back. I would never not want her back, never not want to go back to the day before I lost her. I would only, maybe, years later, learn not to think about it as much." KC
That is right Kate, I want my sister back... here on Planet Earth. Not in some cosmic utopia. I need her here. But my wants and needs aren't going to make that a reality, either here now or after I'm dead.
"We want to love, to be loved, and to deserve love. For atheists, and even for believers, it hardly matters whether God is good or wants us to be good. What matters is that we know what’s bad—inside, we know—and we want to be good." KC
I have made myself clear for a while now that...
"Love Matters More".
"Love is the energy that drives the universe."
"Love drives out Fear."
I even can add that somewhere in that mix that Love helps us as humans find the line between good and bad. Love is intrinsic in our nature. At least that is my experience. Something in my DNA needs me to support my people in order for me to keep existing well. To jeopardize that doesn't make sense to me. Thank you Kate for adding that. Morals aren't found in the obedience of laws, they are in the core of a human to survive and thrive in this world. Call it a basic survival strategy. We need to be nice to people.
"If you pretend to believe when you really don’t, you allow people to behave as if belief in the supernatural is universal. As if it’s not just the norm, but the only belief that is or should be normal." KC
The subtitle of Kate's book is "Why I Stopped Pretending to Believe (And Maybe You Should Too)" Now I will be the first to admit, I don't like being "shoulded on". I don't think after reading the book, that I came away with the conclusion that Kate is "shoulding on" me to out myself as an atheist. She is so compassionate for those who don't have that easy of an option to do so. But maybe for some of us who are almost out of the nest and just need a little encouragement to be honest... I think I found that here. Maybe I found a little more self worth during this read. I discovered once again that there are many ways up the mountain of life, and believing it is okay. So thank you so much, Kate! I am so glad to add your voice to my ever growing collection of inspirational reads and hope one day when I look back, I will treasure the "Rocket Ride" that this book has sent me on.
"Of course, you can call yourself a humanist or an agnostic, you can call yourself lapsed or nonobserving or unaffiliated or “spiritual but not religious.” “Free thinker”—fine. But if you don’t believe that there is a supernatural being in charge of the universe, then I strongly recommend that you call yourself an atheist, both to defang the word and to clarify the point." KC
Check out Kate's interviews:
Seth Andrews: The Thinking Atheist
Hemant Mehta: The Friendly Atheist
Bart Campolo: Humanize me
Monday, September 11, 2023
What a way to end my book fast: "SURVIVING THE DEATH OF A SIBLING" BY T.J. Wray
Saturday, April 1, 2023
Banning books and a book fast?
The media has been fraught with stories of schools in the United States about the banning of books. I have not dived into the details as to why there is a medieval resurgence of purging certain reads from certain libraries. I thought is was a given that the practice of banning books only serves to increase book sales and makes people want to read them more. Some people making those decisions aren't doing their marketing research. Book banning is the best marketing tool. Look at Prince Harry's book "Spare". It has become the biggest non-fiction best seller of all time. The media has done so much to sour Prince Harry's story, but it sure helped his book sales.
The very act of banning books communicates that books are transformative in the lives of children and adults. What I don't understand is the mindset behind the action. It is 2023... why are people still trying to hide information from their children. Most of the kids (and I'm not talking five year olds) have access to information that would make their parent's toenails curl. Maybe the wisdom doesn't lie in restricting the information, maybe the wisdom lies in having conversations about what is out there. Bring the books in the home and discuss them. Ask your children what they think. What a concept. These are just my thoughts. I'm not a parent. I didn't have that journey. But we live in very different times. Controlling information is impossible now. We need to have conversations and stay active in the lives of children. Banning books isn't the answer. Your children will find ways to read them and banning them makes the desire to read them even more powerful.
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I'm shifting gears. Today I am starting a year long book fast. I am doing a book ban in my own life. Strange maybe after I just said that book bans only increase the desire to read... but maybe that is the very reason that I want to go on this book fast.
Reading for me has been a lonely experience. I have no one to share my amazing reads with, except this blog. A computer program has become my best friend. The people closest to me aren't interested in hearing about the books that have captivated my attention lately. I want to share my passions with my special people. So when I find they aren't really interested in what I am passionate about... then it is time to find a passion that I can share with them. I am not all that interested in lonely passions anymore.
I love reading. I have had so many great reads as you can see from this blog. But my interest has waned as of late and I am wondering if the loneliness has taken over. I start a book and know that if I finish it, the only one I can share it with is this blog and the four or five people that find their way here. It worked for a while, but is is not sustaining me now.
So I am laying down books for a year. Maybe this time next year I might find a renewed passion and some reads that will draw me back into that space.
Until then, I will keep puzzling. I started a blog called "Puzzles with Stories" where I share some of my puzzles and the story behind them. I still like stories and won't take a hiatus from finding great stories. Puzzles have been offering me stories and I can share my love for puzzles with my people.
I don't think my book fast will alienate me from my favourite authors. Bart Ehrman and Pete Enns have great podcasts and I have been soaking so much more now in listening to people's voices.
I will still continue to hang out with my "best friend" I call my blog. I still get inspired to write poetry on occasion and I often share those on my poetry blog. I often share Grief stories on my Grieving blog. I have a week to go in my lent journey that I share in "Authentic Lent" , so I will never lack for writing and sharing space.
I am hoping this journey finds me less lonely. I can't say what books will mean for me in a years time. Maybe this is just the start of something bigger than just a book fast. I don't know. Today, I get to say "until later". But who knows how much later.
Now at the end of this post, you might be waiting to hear me say "April Fools"... Sorry... not this morning. I don't feel very foolish about this. I only feel sadness and maybe hopeful.
Maybe I will back here in a year... or maybe not. Time will tell.
Thursday, February 16, 2023
Batter up! Here comes a "CURVE-BALL" by Peter Enns
Okay, confession time. I'm a big Pete Enns fan. But up until now, all the books I've read of his have been responsible for rearranging my cranium. This book, isn't as much about the brain as it is about life. Pete includes his story in his other books, but this one seems more from the heart of who his is, rather than from the brain of what he thinks.
"Rather than telling you how you should respond to your curveballs, I’d like to relate a bit of how I have responded to mine. I’ve had many experiences, utterly unscripted, that I could not ignore over the years and that have put me in a place to see God differently. I cannot tell you what steps you should take to move forward, but I would like to encourage you to become more aware of that inner voice telling you that adjustments are needed and not to feel broken or unfaithful about making those adjustments. I guarantee you are walking a common path." PE
One of my biggest struggles in my life journey has been feeling like my path in life matters and that I have the okay to walk it, just because it is my path. I am grateful for every voice that adds to a kind of encouraged permission that I am okay.
"Have you ever believed something to be absolutely true only to find that the truth is more complicated?" PE
I think it might be obvious from my other writings that I have a problem with the word truth. I've admitted that that word holds a lot of baggage. Thank you Pete for at least giving "truth" a deserving adjective like "complicated". I don't think I could have found a better one.
"The more flexible we are when it comes to reading the Bible, the more prepared we will be to adjust to the curveballs of life. The more inflexible we are, the less prepared we will be to make those adjustments precisely at the time when they will be needed to keep our faith alive and thriving." PE
My deconstruction and deconversion from Christianity is all about the curveballs. Had I just been given pitches that send that ball right to my bat, I wouldn't be where I am now.
I am thankful that I don't have to dance around the doctrines anymore for my own understanding, but that being said... I still face it in my family's expressions of belief and faith. I wish I could easily dismiss it, but this week has proven that I can't.
"And today, perhaps more than ever, all of us could use a vision of God that we cannot control and a faith that invites us to embrace the not-knowing that mystery demands. At least I know I do." PE
Pete doesn't have the same baggage about the word "God" that I do, but at least his picture isn't shrouded in a cover of Christianese. He seems to understand Paul Tillich's picture "The Ground of Being". So we are not far apart in the picture we have. He is after all the author of "The Sin of Certainty" .
The death of stars is the foundation of biological life on our planet. Truly, “we are stardust, we are golden, we are billion-year-old carbon.” To be alive on Earth means something else had to die, and that which died was transformed into something new to make us us—and not just us, but every living thing. PE
I wish everyone could see the beauty in this idea... we are stardust. I admire the stars. I don't know much about them, but they inspire me. They draw me into the unknown as a place of beauty and magnificence. I don't need to know the details to be inspired by the poetry and wonder of it all. Also.. it makes being fifty something not feel so old.
"Evolution is incurably forward oriented. And this should bring us hope." PE
Thank you Pete Enns for more permission to embrace things like evolution, the Creator in my space and time, the unknown, the wonder of it all. It has helped me hit some of those curveballs that still come my way.
"What if we are meant to live free from fear concerning God? There are plenty of other legitimate fears and sufferings we deal with in the course of our lives. What if God isn’t one of them? What if part of the gift of life, and of the advanced consciousness we have, is to become more and more aware of the Source of All Being, the divine Presence all around us, the Creator who is present in every atom and subatomic particle in all of creation?" PE


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